No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world Squizzy @lemmy.world 9mo ago

What is a discreet way of waking myself?

I need to get up without waking the wife and kids, I got a smartwatch to vibrate and it woke her. The alarm is always going to wake the house.

Is there anything else?

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If your wife is such a light sleeper that a vibrating watch is waking her perhaps sleeping in a separate room when you need to wake up at a certain time would work?
- Separate rooms is definitely not an option. It's not so much super light sleeper just she is nursing and I'd like to get a workout in before everyone else wakes. If I wake the kids we're all screwed if I wake her I ruin what peace she gets.
  
  Sounds like you need to change the time you do the workout.
  
  Why because my two options are don't get up early or sleep separately?
  
  Because it sounds like she's sacrificing a lot to nurse a new baby, so maybe you could sacrifice a little bit for her so she can get at least a bit of sleep.
  
  Maybe mind your own business and stop making presumptions about my family life you self righteous prick.
  
  I want to wake an hour before everyone to do some exercising so I'm not eating into the family time. The time would otherwise be spent sleeping like everyone else.
  
  I honestly can't believe the audacity of your reply.
  
  "Mind your own business on a public forum where I chose to disclose information!" How rich.
  
  It's based on absolutely no information that I provided, just your apparent want for feeling superior.
  
  "Separate rooms is definitely not an option. It's not so much super light sleeper just she is nursing and I'd like to get a workout in before everyone else wakes. If I wake the kids we're all screwed if I wake her I ruin what peace she gets."
  
  This you?
  
  Dude, I wasn't even trying to be rude or confrontational, just answering a question you asked about why you might consider changing your schedule, from a different perspective. You coming out firing from both hips about it is sus as fuck.
  
  How is it sus for me to be annoyed by your comment about my partners sacrifices and my lack of sacrifices. If you didnt even try to be rude and came out with that then you're just a naturally rude and arrogant person.
  
  I didn't mention sacrifices, and I didn't discuss our living arrangements nor should I have to.
  
  I am trying to find something to wake me without waking others and you took that to be selfish of me. I'm trying to wake early to excercise, something that benefits everyone, without interrupting anyone else's sleep and you took that to be selfish and said I should sacrifice more.
  
  You can be sus all you want you are very rude and make assumptions. Your first inclination is to think that I'm not willing to sacrifice sleeping beside my partner, without considering that my partner wouldn't like to sleep alone or that the baby sleeps in our room and that I take part in the overnight feeding.
  
  You're shitty attitude struck a nerve.
  
  Put the watch on your ankle? Probably idiotic, but that might be silent enough. And you'd have to do some work to make it stop, waking you up efficiently.
  
  Try a different watch or adjust the haptics to make it vibrate less? Casio sells an inexpensive alarm watch that vibrates if you can't dial the watch back.
  
  A split king bed did wonders for my wife and I. I never feel her move. Now, if it's noise that wakes her up, a sound machine could help.
  
  Split king? So, two mattresses and one duvet, is it?
  
  It's essentially 2 twin xl mattress side by side. You can use one duvet, but we blanket fight, so we use 2 separate.
  
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  Lol I know the 5g stuff is a stupid myth but sleeping with a Bluetooth device strapped to your cranium feels like it's putting the research conclusions to the test
  
  sleeping peacefully
  
  BLUETOOTH DISCONNECTED
  
  BLUETOOTH CONNECTED
  
  angry groggy noises
  
  Oh God I didn't even think about a rogue connection:
  
  10h train braking, pig fucking, garbage disposal sleep sounds ASMR vibe begins
  
  I don't suppose there's room for a bed in the babies' room, so after the mid-night nursings she could sleep in there until they're hungry again? Only if she wants to, of course. It can be more restful than trying to sleep with your ears on High for sounds of distress from the other room, which also makes you oversensitive to hubby's alarm.
  
  The baby is in our room, and the others have their own, but the house is old and creaky, so I tread carefully.
  
  Literally or figuratively?
  
  Could you or her be occupying another room for a few weeks/months or is it worth a fight
  
  What I'm trying to do is not worth sleeping alone, I just want to get a workout in before the day starts and waking anyone will just start the day earlier. But sleeping separately is worse than being out of shape.
  
  To each their own, I'd say for a few weeks no biggie. Obviously cuddle/rest together
  
  Having raised many kids, you have to take your extra time where you can actually find it. If your family is early to rise, work out before bed instead, after they go to sleep. I have done early morning workouts, late night workouts, lunch time workouts. It may be that you can't have morning time alone right now.
  
  And why is a different room definitely not an option?
  
  prob bc houses have finite space
  
  Because this is an ongoing situation, and I don't want to sleep without my partner.

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