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I finally watched The Incel to Trans Pipeline and Inside Mari. Don't be put off like I was by the title: it's good. Anyway, I was sufficiently interested to pick up the manga second-hand and read through it at the weekend.
Inside Mari spoilers
Even knowing the outline from watching the video above, it's a mindfuck and pretty uncomfortable reading. I loved it though. Then I tried to figure out who I identified with.
First, obviously, on the surface it's about a man who ends up in the body of a girl, which I guess to an outsider looks kinda like the transfem experience, but actually almost the reverse.
Then, aha! I figure: I'm actually like Mari -- I thought I was a man, but let go of that figured out who I want to be in the end. (It surprised me at first that we ended up with Mari and not Fumiko, but on reflection I think that was the right choice). But no, that's not quite right either.
Then I read the author's note right at the end. Why does this story have to be about me anyway? There may be elements I relate to, but ultimately I am who I am, and there's no need to try to fit into any particular box.
Except now my internal "goals" setting seems to have got stuck on "high-school girl" and I'm feeling horribly dysphoric. Gotta learn not to compare myself to others...