Currently it’s a little buried, but hopefully could get uprated. You can get to that by going to the community, click any post, click the three dots, click Community dropdown, and then either Sidebar, Unsubscribe, Block, etc.
First, I’m not a counselor but I highly recommend one. It is so useful to sort things out with someone. It sounds like you are conflicted between two bad options: conform to fit in, or be patronized. Those both suck and I can see why that can cause anguish.
Is there any way you can be around people that dont fit those two categories? Someone that you can relate to and feel more like yourself?
And some of what youre describing sounds similar to the Black exploitation in the film industry. People described their experience that they needed to act a certain way to “be Black” or they were not accepted. Just an idea, but could you put your art out there in a more anonymous way? The feedback you get might be more authentic, if that’s what you are looking for. Ideally you wouldnt need to do this, but unfortunately it is what some authors and artists have done to navigate the race-based treatment.
I hope the best for you. It’s a shit world sometimes.
If you’re on iOS, Arctic made some big updates that make it arguably better than Voyager IMO. The biggest thing that got me was color picker themes, so you can literally make your own theme (and save and share them). Also the markdown is pretty great now. Voyager is still pretty solid and very good performance and features.
That might have been me, I always ask for more visual options haha. The colors really make it more pleasant to use. Anecdotally, the performance seems better with transparencies off, using opaque colors. 
Thanks for the tip for testing the colors. And sharing the preview. I’ll try editing my post to have the previews included.
Also on a personal note, make sure you pace yourself and take breaks. There will always be more to improve and sometimes I think people feel that they need to push themselves. It can wait. Two of my favorite Lemmy apps kind of just stopped flat, and my hunch is that the developers got burnt out.
Wow, thank you for all of the hard work. The themes had me so excited (especially Cremé) but then I saw a… theme maker option?? I literally spent an hour fiddling with a theme and found a combination that I like.
Here are the theme files, if anyone wants to try them. Also it’s the first time sharing files via Proton Drive, so let me know if it works:
https://i.postimg.cc/ncSpFqWK/Lemmy-Artctic-Bookworm-Day.png
https://drive.proton.me/urls/TH0K1XWCY0#2UbAuFxjvF2g
https://i.postimg.cc/BnN0ZxPq/IMG-9458.png
https://drive.proton.me/urls/P57DPY0MMC#aOxfn0nAFLMG
Eventually it would be great to have the labels possibly be easier to figure out what it is changing.
Thanks for the tips. I’m going to try that file card. I have never heard anyone mention one, but if it helps the files last longer, I’m all for it. Do you add some vinegar or something to the card as well?
That’s weird. Mine is loading posts from as recent as 2 min ago and I’m post from the app now.
I have to somewhat agree with the author. My experience and understanding of depression is that it is more of a (sometimes very persistent) symptom than an underlying cause. Ideally, we would all have the guidance to deal with depressing scenarios, but similar to dissociation during trauma, our mind defaults back to disconnection to limit the pain.
I’m not saying this is every case, but I do think as a society we could view depression more as a coping strategy, and try to replace it with healthier practices. After time, it takes more time and effort and support to replace those coping strategies, but that is essentially what psychotherapy does.
I think too often in the modern world people tend to just shrug and say “this is who I am,” instead of trying to improve their coping skills and quality of life. Like another commentor mentions, this becomes a feedback loop of depression feeding depression and takes immense support and effort to curve and should absolutely not be shamed.
What has your experience been with a credit union?
I like the idea of a less profit-driven business that is maybe more community-focused but I wonder if they have the same capability as a bank? Have you been able to do your banking needs at a credit union? Was the customer service decent?
Spot on. It’s my primary working surface right now and will be mostly for ripping when I have a full bench. Sitting on it, my weight provides the stability, but I can pick it up and take it outside or anywhere.
I’ll use the joiners mallet to knock together joints and to motivate my chisel.
Yeah it’s convenient for some things, but not ideal for others. I might modify it by putting pegs into each leg to hold them in better, because the actual joints arent that good. Besides adding a crochet hook, some people add an attachment to hang down from the edge with the crochet hook to support longer boards with pegs, but I won’t know if that’s necessary until I use it more. The holdfasts dont grip well because it is so shallow, so I’m going to add some scratches to the holdfasts to see if the texture gives some better grip.
I’ll also add a couple more holdfast holes somewhere in th middle for sawing. Near the end of the bench where they are now, the saw sometimes bumps the leg that is protruding outward.
low Roman bench and joiners mallet
I made a low Roman bench out of a piece of bowling alley that was being trashed and some old fence posts. I fitted the legs with slanted mortise and tenon joints and realized that was a lot of work, so I did the other side with bored out round mortise and tenons, which was somewhat easier. There is a notch in place of a full vice, and I mad e a “crochet hook” attachment for wedging up large boards for edge planing, but it split so I’ll need to figure out a different grain direction.
More pics:
I also made a new joiners mallet. My other one’s handle broke because it was pretty soft. The head is a chunk of 3” thick red maple that I’ll use to make my full-sized bench top, and the handle is something dense (oak?). I had to slim down the end of the handle so it would fit through the head. I cut the curve of the handle by cross-cutting lines and then chunking them off with a hatchet and smoothing it off with a spokeshave.
I didnt have an actual mortise chisel, so I essentially had to chisel out the whole mortise. I plan to go back and clean up the fit a little better and smooth out the edges later. I’ll use both of these to make a larger bench to work with, and use the Roman bench as a sawhorse.
Pics:
It turned out fantastic either way, and I don’t think anyone will turn you into the woood police.
Yeah, it’s surprising how little information there is to be found on how that was traditionally attached prior to hardware. I thought wood pegs and holes might work but havent tried it yet. I saw one design that had the legs go up flush to the table top and the top was notched and dropped into the legs.
This might be a dumb question, but how did you attach the top to the legs/frame? With wood pegs and holes?
I would also love a sepia color theme. Having a tan/beige background with dark brown accent colors would be really nice to use. I love these colors on reader modes in web browsers.
Yeah I guess they are generally more… grounded
I also work 3x12s and mostly love having the 4 days off. The downside is being able to do virtually nothing on those days besides eat and sleep. I think one advantage of the 9-5 week is being able to still do a few things more often. It’s hard to practice hobbies and maintain the house with gaps on days that I’m working.
What you value changes slightly as time goes on. Having the more consistent day might be more appealing now. And if you dont like it, there are always nurse jobs that are in need. Maybe there is something in between the hospital and that gig, like dialysis nursing. Worth a try.
For sure, it’s difficult to break that cycle of anxiety. It has been helpful to understand it a little better. I think out of the strategies that she lists at the end, the one about challenging your assumptions has helped the most. I kind of imagine what advice I would give myself in that moment or what I would challenge someone else on.
TIL Wisconsin was originally spelled "Meskousing"
The name originated from the English spelling of a French version of a Miami tribe name for what's now the Wisconsin River.
According to the state’s historical society, Jacques Marquette first described the region in 1673. The cursive M was later misread as a W by Rene Robert Cavelier.
The meaning of the word was discussed:
> However, the hypothesized meanings were derived incorrectly from the Ojibwe language, not Miami, because the latter had not yet been mastered by modern scholars.
> Another possible origin for Wisconsin's name was mentioned to WPR in 2019 by University of Wisconsin-Green Bay elder in residence and member of the Menominee tribe, Napos. He said he "was always told the name came from the Menominee word 'Wēskōhsaeh.'"
> The first part of that word come from the word "Wis-cu," which Napos told WPR means "something good." The ending of "Wēskōhsaeh" is locative, meaning "'a good place to camp,' or 'to make a clearing' or 'to basically live.'"
I would also love to see a sepia color scheme option in addition to the dark/light mode. The less harsh contrast is nice on eyes.
I think because that to minimize damage for a full acute withdrawal. As I understand it, benzos increase GABA that is depleted from alcohol, because NMDA recovers more quickly and is excitable, causing the twitching, seizures, etc.
This seems like a slow wean off with social and housing support to replace the dependency on alcohol. Kind of makes a lot of sense.
I tried some Anker Liberty 4 earbuds and have found the ANC pretty good. They do stick out a bit so lying on your side wouldnt work, but there are these smaller ANC earbuds from Anker that might be worth a try: https://a.co/d/ggtEPov
TIL of Waldorf schools
I mentioned to someone how I think there should be more hands-on learning in schools and he told me to look up Waldorf schools. Very interesting to say the least. Rudolf Steiner had very unique philosophies, some very weird or outright morally questionable, but some that I think were an appropriate reaction to the “thinking in the box” that is often dolled out in school.
The parts I agree with are that kids are taught engagement with crafts (eg, carving), music and creativity, an inquisitive exploration (reminds me of the Socratic approach), and an adaptive progression of subject matter that is based on the students’ individual levels. It reminds me a lot of the origins of the liberal arts being the skills a free person needed to engage the world, which included music and logic/rhetoric.
The parts I don’t really agree with are the pseudo-spirituality, the pseudo-science, and the racist parts of Steiner’s theory. I think I would need to do a thorough investigation of the specific school before I would consider sending my student there, but the philosophy definitely seems to meet some needs of students that are otherwise under-developed in the current school systems.
What are your thoughts?
CMV - “platonic love” does not mean “non-romantic”
…or at least only non-romantic love. I’m learning about history of western philosophy and understand that Plato’s Symposium describes his theory on love and that a person initially desires physical love, but then eventually grows to love things that feel fulfilling, and eventually love the ideal form of beauty itself. It seems like more of a spectrum/progression that includes romantic/physical love, not abstaining from it. “Platonic love” would seem to include physical love and doesn’t seem consistent with the dictionary definition of “friendship love.”
Any thoughts on that?
My wife and I were walking to the checkout lanes…
and I always make us use the checkout with a cashier (not self-checkout) because I’ve been on a kick of promoting local business and such.
On the way out, I unintentionally walk toward the non-automatic doors and just about walk into them before I catch myself and push the door open. Without skipping a beat she says, “What, are you trying to keep those doors employed too?”
collapsed comment count overlaps with upvote/downvote count
It looks like it may be happening because I have commenters’ instances visible and larger text size selected. Not the worst thing, just minorly inconvenient.
I am still thoroughly enjoying the app and use it pretty frequently. @gromdroid I hope you get the chance to continue refining it as time and life permits. Thanks again for your efforts.
colorful wood
Found on here: https://mastodon.social/@darkkeil/112360934032018120
Reposted many times; I cannot find the original artist.
Mushi-Shi
Mushi-Shi (cropped) by Alena Aenami
Original: https://www.artstation.com/artwork/5KYQ8
This seemed like a nice spring-y thing to look at. I hope you enjoy it.
first completed wood project
I made a joiners mallet. I’m trying to challenge myself by only hand tools. The wood was found in the basement; I think hickory head and I have no idea what the handle pieces are. The handle and head were each laminated and the handle was mortised in, wedged, and glued. I rounded out the handle with a spokeshave and rasp.
There are plenty of things I could have done differently, but I’m just glad I pushed myself to finish it. And now have a fairly heavy-duty mallet, so I dont need to swing on the chisels as hard. I think if I were to make another one, I would find a single block of wood for the head instead of laminating cut pieces.
Shellac then burn or vice versa?
I would like to wood burn some designs into a nightstand but may want to add more burning down the road, after I coat it with shellac. From what I could gather, people mentioned to only burn and then seal, otherwise the burning after the shellac could cause issues, like releasing inhalants. Is that really an issue with shellac since it is “natural”?
How do you know when saw files need to be replaced?
I can’t tell if I’m sharpening incorrectly or if my file is just worn out. Is there a way to tell? I read somewhere to replace after like five sharpening a but that seems really short.
bug - crash when reopening app
If I close the app for a few minutes and then reopen it, I’ll usually swipe down to refresh the post I was on, and the app crashes.
Winter Winds
by Michal Kvác
Direct Download: https://i.postimg.cc/hSfrHSqR/Winter-Wind-by-Michal-Kv-c.jpg?dl=1
This is a crop from the original that is in landscape and probably better as a desktop wallpaper, so I know this isn’t high resolution, but I really enjoy this artist’s style and wanted to share.
Wisconsin power outage due to snow
View real-time outage information within our service area.
Many power outages across the state due to snowfall causing tree branches to take out power lines. Be sure to report that you have a power outage so the power company is aware of it. WPS phone number is: 800-450-7240, and here is the link to report if you have WE Energies.
It sounds like it may take a few days to fix. Make sure to stay warm and be safe. Run your faucets at a fast drip to help prevent them from freezing.
Book on helping a family member with addiction accept help
The book I’m not sick, I don’t need help by Xavier Armado came up quite a few times when I attended support groups. It’s apparently pretty helpful in working with a friend or family member with addiction that is denying treatment. I have not had the chance to read this; have any of you read this? What did you think? Were there other books you’d recommend?
time on posts are different
I first just want to say thanks again for putting the time and effort that goes into making Lemma. It’s still my main Lemmy app.
I just noticed after making a post a few minutes ago that the post in-app shows a much old timer. For example, I posted about 7 minutes ago (which shows on the browser) but Lemma shows 6h. The post prior to that one showed something like 12h when I first posted it. Is that maybe referencing when the server synced or how ever that works between instances? Those were both posts to instances other than my home one.
Edit: I tried it on the same instance has my home instance and similarly got 6h ago