Where does a man get a proper shoe horn that will not break
I feel like I've tried everything available in all the stores, at the shoe stores, I've bought the "good" ones off Amazon, the DUBEFWEE style brands too.
They all break or deform within a year, I can't take it
Definitely this. OP should try to position the shoehorn alongside his leg. If you use it in a wider angle over and over, not only makes it the process harder and more uncomfortable, it also bends the metal after some time.