I'm thinking of getting a fairphone in the future. I like that they are modular and last a while. Are they easily customizable to where I can flash a different ROM? Is the default configuration private?
As others said, it's pretty stock android so... Bad. But you can buy it from Murena pre-flashed with e/os and then have a stock phone with a locked bootloader running a decently private OS. The bootloader is unlockable if you so wish.
I know that for a fact that you can't install GrapheneOS on it, but CalyxIS is available for the Fairphone, then flash that and you'll have full protection, minus mandatory communication services that are require to use any kind of a smartphone.
The default Android on them is pretty standard including Google Play services, so it is not great in regards to privacy (but could be worse, like an Apple device or so).
But for most of their models you can find good alternative Android roms or even mobile Linux distributions like PostmarketOS.