I insulted no one, wth? It is hard depending on where you live, that's why I told them to research. You think I live in a place with a Latino community? Most people in my entire county have never heard of Puerto Rico where I live. I've never run into anyone speaking Spanish in the wild. It is nonexistent. I think it's weird you assume there are a bunch of Mexican families running authentic Mexican restaurants in every city in the US. You have to find the hubs yourself and see if it is truly what you are looking for.

And just because a Mexican family has a restaurant does not mean it isn't like Tex-Mex or another variety of Mexican-American food. Mexican families didn't all agree to only serve one type of Mexican food, authentic or not.

Presumptuous? I'm not sure how you got that from my message but I don't blame you because apparently I am r* when it comes to communicating online, many people accuse me of things I did not mean or say and then I get downvoted because no one cares what I have to say.

I am sorry what you went through. You said you knew from experience what it was like so I assumed you also had some sort of mental illness and some sort of suicidal component but that you got better. That was my assumption. I just don't believe everyone can get better.

I'm not sure how much to reveal about myself without potentially doxxing myself. But I am from the US. I have been suicidal since a child since before I could identify the suicidal feeling as being suicidal because of a combo of a very abusive home and an abusive school environment. My abusive upbringing gave me PTSD, anxiety, and depression. It did not get better once I became an adult and I developed chronic pain in middle school. I had abusive relationships one after the other (my therapist said since I've never seen a healthy relationship modeled before this is why it kept happening), but one ex in particular really abused me badly and added on to the PTSD. I had tried killing myself growing up a few times, eventually it led to me taking a more drastic measure as an adult that landed me in the mental ward. I didn't do it for revenge or attention, I did it because my life is full of too much suffering. The mental ward was extremely horrible for me and added on to my PTSD, it felt like a prison and like I was in constant danger. I've lost friends who can't handle my suicidal attempts, I no longer talk about it to anyone except my therapist now. My therapist encouraged me to go to the mental ward a few times, I tried it but my PTSD and anxiety would heighten during the wait from the ER to the mental ward that I usually just left (after all they would leave me in a bed in the hallway with no visitors for six hours to tell me 99% of the time there is no room in the mental ward for me and 1% of the time they could transfer me many hours away to a different hospital one-way so I'm on my own to get back). I went so often they told me I couldn't keep going back every time I had a bad day. Thing is, I feel in crisis every day. So I gave up on the ER and the mental ward. I've even been kicked out of the ER before during a pretty bad day, the staff just don't know how to deal with people like me who aren't violent but just can't follow directions during an episode because I completely shut down. I also tried crisis lines but found they were very short and rude with me. I have promised myself I will wait for my dogs to pass on of natural causes before catching the bus. I can't trust anyone to take good care of them if I am gone. That is the only reason I am still alive. When I am suicidal I lookup the methods for exiting, visit the forums, and it calms me down enough to stick to my resolve for my dogs.

I am glad you were able to find relief. I don't want people to die if they can be helped, I really don't, but not everyone can be helped. It is not going to be the same for me. I have debilitating chronic pain that forces me to mostly stay in bed all day and my health insurance cannot pay for what I need, assuming it would even help my pain. I am on SSI but it is not enough money to cover for these extra medical expenses. There are hardly any doctors in my area who accept my insurance, I've flown to other nearby areas before but it is still the same with many doctors not wanting to accept my insurance. I find my therapist is the one person I can really talk to, but I've been warned I can't say how suicidal I really am or I will be forced into the mental ward so I dance around the subject. Friends? No, not really. I do have an SO but they are not enough of a reason to stay, sometimes they are the reason I want to leave.

I know someone with lupus that has similar pain to me and I have watched them decay: being able to walk about, then needing a cane, and now needing a wheelchair and their legs have atrophied. They are in so much pain and also spend their days in bed and I can't help but feel that this is where I am headed and I do not want to go there. I already can't sit or stand for very long let alone walk about very far. I have a service dog to help me walk longer distances but he can't go everywhere with me, for instance places like the mental ward. My doctor said I just need exercise and sent me to physical therapy, but when I didn't improve enough my insurance cut me off. My pain is still the same. Over the years my doctors have been very unhelpful dealing with my pain. One doctor even said it was because of my weight, but my pain started when I was very skinny and I got overweight because it became too hard to move around. I have to stick to a diet of 1050 calories to lose weight since I am very short, my doctors don't recommend this and instead want me to somehow exercise more but I've lost 30 lbs this way without having to exercise. My pain did not get better weighing less. It is also obviously very hard to stick to a diet this strict for very long. There is also something very wrong with my uterus. I have had horrible periods since they first started that put me in so much pain I would miss days at school every month and then work every month and now I have been told it may be endometriosis but the only way to confirm is through surgery which my doctor doesn't approve of. Intercourse is so goddamn painful. I need constant birth control (skip placebo) to help ease my periods, but they do not help with the mood swings and intense suicidal ideation during them.

There is a society component to my issues. I don't deny that. But when you spend your days trapped in a body that feels near constant pain where you have days you can't use your arms or legs very much and a mind that still has PTSD flashbacks and have to act neurotic around certain things because of anxiety and skip eating meals and showers because of depression and did I mention I reached the age where schizophrenia is rearing its head and making me feel even more crazy like I hear voices and see hallucinations and I can't even trust my memory anymore so it is far too easy to gaslight me and I have IBS which no diet I've tried has been able to ease (including gluten-free) ... I mean my life is pain. To me. I want out. And I don't even think my story is that bad compared to what I've read on the forums. A lot of people on the forums didn't respond well to therapy or medication at all. At least I have a therapist I can talk to since no one else wants to talk to me.

I acknowledge you have pain and you were able to work through it, able to manage it. But I am not going to be able to work through mine. Maybe I'm too weak. I just hate being alive. You probably hate me judging by your tone and I don't know if you will read this but there is no help for me.

I've read their stories and have my own, there is no help. Therapy, medication, mental ward visits, physical therapy, etc. don't help. Some issues are definitely caused by society, but it is not realistically possible to change society radically enough and soon enough to help. They feel there is no help because there is indeed no help, I also hold this view for myself.

I am not talking about someone going through a breakup reacting on impulse, I mean people who have been mentally ill for years. People with chronic conditions. People who are in pain.

And what happens when your mental health crisis has lasted for several years, decades even? It is possible to not be terminally ill or old and still rationally decide you want to die due to chronic illness or other issues, even if your issue is purely mental illness. You should be able to die with dignity, peacefully - not after forking over a pretty sum over sketchy websites hoping to get the right peaceful pill that every government has banned or a poison + medication combo so that you'll die puking your guts out but hopefully you won't puke the poison out and successfully die.

There is no help for so many people wanting to die, they've exhausted their options. Some are so desperate they buy what they think is a peaceful pill but is instead rat poison. Mental hospitals do not help these type of people, if these places help at all.

Nah mental hospitals are prisons, it might feel nicer when you have control but on the other side it is a nightmare.

There is an american version of Mexican food widely available (Mexican-American), for example you mentioned taco bell in america but this is not authentic Mexican food (also taco bell has been open for decades in america). It will be hard to find actual authentic Mexican food here, you would have to really research and visit yourself. Even when I lived in a city near the border of Mexico I would still have to cross the border for authentic Mexican food but there was plenty of Tex-Mex around since that was popular. In my current area I've seen a couple of businesses open specifically offering authentic Mexican food or even Puerto Rican food and each time it was not authentic, and the "authentic" "Puerto Rican" food was usually gross and nothing like food back in PR.

I hate dealing with some types of men, it's exhausting.

And I was also sharing my experience and feelings, I didn't look for a debate either. It's not my fault the guy shut down, apparently I had inadvertently struck a nerve. I was appalled that the seniors at the home were starving without the guy's intervention, like jfc. You are just being rude because you are looking for a fight. At least I am contributing to the conversation.

Edit: nah that was a bad take, even if I didn't mean to it is my fault and I apologize.

No, if you don't want to hear from me then block me. I have just as much as a "right" as you do to comment.

I am not really arguing with you? Not everything is a personal attack. I am flabbergasted why you think my response was arguing with you when I was mostly trying to sympathize and trying to relate to your response. I just said I was confused by your first comment about the whole meat and cheese makes a varied diet which is healthier and such but now I understand why you were giving the people in your care a cheeseburger since they were starving and how horrible the home must have been to allow them to starve. I'm sorry for the misunderstanding? I thought I tried making it clear that people in homes like these should be able to eat whatever diet they wanted and is of course nutritionally appropriate (if they are diabetic they probably need a specific diet).

See now you're changing what you said. You said they needed a "varied" diet because it's healthier that way and that's why you gave them cheeseburgers (which the premise is wrong, this is obviously not healthy compared to a plant-based diet), now you are saying these people are starving to death either because the home isn't feeding them or they are too stubborn to change their diet and would rather starve to death (which now I can kinda understand why you gave them cheeseburgers).

I find it repulsive these people are being dumped in a home that does not care if their seniors eat their food. I'm an atheist and I find it unacceptable to force someone on a kosher diet they do not want. This home sounds awful. But as for the wine part, they will never serve that, alcohol is very bad for you. The home should be responsible for their residents' nutritional needs. Did you happen to report this home? I hope it either has changed or was shut down.

I have a parent residing permanently in a nursing home and their diet had to change, they spent their whole life eating unhealthy food which led to them becoming a type 2 diabetic for most of their adult life before any of my siblings or I were born. Their diet in the home is now a diabetic diet. They eat their new food and complain sometimes, I show up with some fruit as a treat but never anything unhealthy. They also had already started losing their sense of taste beforehand (food needed to be extra, extra salty for them to taste it). I would be pissed if you gave my parent something unhealthy because it would be contributing to killing them (this is assuming they are not starving and you have nothing else to feed them of course). I already have a problem with one sibling feeding my parent cupcakes, ice cream, candy, soda, etc. and then I get to hear from the nurses about how my parent's sugar levels are way too high so I tell my sibling to stop killing my parent but they never stop because they "pity" them too much. This sibling is also type 2 diabetic btw and will never change their diet.

In that case, yes I agree.

I'm sorry if you're Kosher, I probably slipped your parent(s) meat and cheese (if they asked). Generally, they needed it. They usually live a lot longer with a more varied diet.

People can eat whatever they like but I seriously doubt these people you slipped meat and cheese "needed" it. Especially cheese burgers. Vegans (plant-based diets in general) live longer, healthier lives compared to meat-eaters. They can still get sick and die since these diets don't cure all diseases but generally they have better health outcomes.

What do you mean gender exists in the brain? It's my understanding there is small but insignificant differences between cis men and cis women brains, so why would a trans person have a brain that "proves" they are more like a man or woman? What does a non-binary brain look like? A lot of early science tried to paint women as having inferior brains than men, women are more emotional while men are more rational because men have slightly bigger, heavier brains. The research is at best inconclusive.

https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-019-00677-x

I can understand trans people might feel some euphoria about it but I don't buy the whole boy/girl brain thing. Trans people are valid and can benefit from transition however they choose to do so. I guess maybe I am a radical because I think gender as a social construct (like all the roles men and women have) is dumb and should be abolished.

I tried looking up more about this and this wiki mentions hormone differences, everything else looks very much debated.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuroscience_of_sex_differences

I hate hCaptcha, I use a VPN and it pretty much always fails no matter what because of it. Captcha in general sucks, for a long time I was unable to complete them because it turned out I needed glasses. I remember one captcha letting me use audio during this time but I needed to do multiple audio captcha which really slowed me down. Github was the worst for me, so many captcha needed to make an account. Once I got my glasses it became easier, but hCaptcha stills gives me a lot of grief due to VPN. Google's captcha isn't as bad as hCaptcha but I'm still unable to complete it once and be done, it always says I did something wrong the first time.

I think it is lashing out to ban people for no reason. They were so upset by the trolls that people with legitimate criticisms were banned (which Zoot says they never had an issue with, it was only trolls they did not like) and then people just curious about the mod and asking questions were also banned.

Sorry, I seem to be misunderstanding you because I do not know what you quite mean anymore. You said "that's how they read, especially when you compare their comments to the reddit post i linked. not even the sympathy for a person who leaves explains the difference to me" which I thought meant there was an overwhelming amount of people who were trolls for not having sympathy for the mod author leaving. Now you are saying that people were criticizing too much in the other threads, and I'm not sure what is being shrugged off as sympathy.

I typed a long ass comment on my phone and summit crashed not saving any of it, fucking hell. Anyway I have to refind all the comments again.

Here is where:

u/WoodenRocketShip

People absolutely dragged the mod and the mod author when the update with her boyfriend came out. Normally if people got that mad over something that happens in a mod you'd get pushback from others saying that it's just not for you and it's not your place to judge, but the mod author was also silencing critics and absolutely going off with her army of followers, so yeah no pushback everyone was on the same page. For a couple of weeks she and her mod were the big bads of this subreddit.

u/Live_Hippo_5885

That's a bit wild silencing your critics changing her race and backstory is a bit drastic but it's their mod I suppose, I don't really care that she has a boyfriend I like having a bro to adventure with dude's just kind of a dick imo.

u/WoodenRocketShip

Yeah see if it was just that, then I'd just chalk it up as a mod that I'm uninstalling and never thinking about it again as I barely liked Daegon before. If the mod author didn't go around silencing criticism in the mod's comments, some of which wasn't even criticism and was from genuine fans curious about certain things, then I don't think many people would have said anything.

People on this thread claimed they were banned for not liking the mod, asking questions about the mod, etc. before the comments section was removed altogether.

The context of the discord image joking about doxxing given by the Zoot guy defending the mod author is that it was a random discord user who they did not know who was known for being overdramatic and later on they think someone else told the user to cool it. Doxxing is serious to me so I do not think this context absolves the image, it feels worse since the mod author doesn't even know the person and just gleefully agrees with them to the point another rando has to tell them to stop. I think the mod author is immature and the random user probably a teenager. It's the only thing that makes sense why they would joke like that. I'm not digging for the discord, I've not only already wasted enough time with this comment since summit crashed on me but also find it a waste of time.

The thread talking about the mod author leaving was very sympathetic. My original comment had the top 9 or 10 comments and a few replies from the thread to prove to you that it was not overwhelmed by trolls. But there is no way I'm doing that again. Just read it yourself. If you still think they are not sympathetic enough then something is seriously wrong with your interpretation.

This is a both sides suck here for me.

I read a few of the reddit threads and there were legitimate criticisms that the follower started out cringey and edgy but a lore-friendly bratty elf and then after some big update the follower was turned into an over-the-top melodramatic edgy super evil non-lore-friendly entity (vampire demon dragon princess from another reality that is more powerful than any of the gods of TES) who now had a boyfriend equally evil with many voice lines about how much the two of them were horny for each other, and like to burn down inns full of people for fun.

There were some cringey guys upset they were being cucked, too many gamers in general are obsessed about the possibility of being cucked by some pixels and are ridiculously fragile about it.

But the mod author lashed out at both the trolls and people caught in the crossfire, the community became more upset, just an angry cycle. People asked about being able to download the old version before the changes since the mod author hid the older version - Nexus doesn't allow mod authors to delete their work anymore so people's mod lists don't break but they for some stupid reason allow mod authors to hide older versions from users which can only be accessed by having the right link and it is a pain to get. Eventually the mod author releases the older version again as its own mod. But at this point the community hates them because of an image showing someome on the mod author's discord talking about doxxing anyone who upset the mod author which the author offered gleeful support of.

There was a guy in the thread (ZootAllures9111) who said he helped develop and code the mod (you quoted him in your comment) and he said that practically all criticisms were trolls from kiwifarms, and that the person who wanted to doxx others on the discord was just being silly and edgy and only disingenuous people would take their silly edginess at face value. Also that they won't play "this game with you" when asked how the mod author responded to this person wanting to doxx people because (CW:transphobia) the only image you need to look at is some random troll on a website called kiwifarms complaining about being a third wheel to two horny NPCs in the mod and something about being a cuck and that other followers don't need sex to sell basically. Then when someone in the reddit thread asks why they keep posting and deleting their same comment with someone else chiming in confirming they also noticed this, the guy offers a reasonable explanation about network issues and then says, "I remember you from the comment sections of our mods now by the way, you are exactly as disingenous as I thought yesterday and you're not gonna get anywhere pretending otherwise." Which the innocent guy replies, "You should maybe take a break because you’re getting paranoid now. I’ve never used your mod, have no intention to, and the first time I’ve heard of all this drama was when this thread came up."

Why mention this? Because I think it is shitty to "joke" about doxxing people and defend this "joking" and call everyone speaking out a troll from kiwifarm and I can see why the community doesn't like the direction the author took and how annoying it is to not be able to go back to an older version of the mod. And I've read the threads, they were not overwhelmed with trolls unless you think people who criticize a mod author are always trolls. But I also think it is shitty and unacceptable how much harassment the author got. They are not the first author to get harassed off of Skyrim modding, even Vilja's author was chased off for IMO stupid reasons. The Skyrim modding community is full of assholes, both mod authors and users alike. It used to be routine how many mod authors would lose their shit and delete their mods.

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You do realize urban dictionary is rife with sexist and racist terms on it? Jesus Christ. At least try to troll better. You clearly came here to push an agenda that failed miserably.