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Writer of the most popular Soulist Manifesto and the article about how John Wick is communist. Read My blog: https://medium.com/@viridiangrail
I made a similar point in one of My blog articles
This makes perfect sense. Princess is, after all, a very dirty word. https://scribe.rip/@viridiangrail/princesses-are-nsfw-f9e6c3d4532d
This reality is a simulation. But it's not electronic like the Matrix, it's social. You've been socially conditioned to see what the owning class want you to see.
I think it's very simple. If you spend all day thinking about gay dick, your body is going to react. Normally only gay mascs and horny women spend all day thinking about gay dick. Straight men don't have a reaction to gay dick because they don't condition that response. They don't think about gay dick for long enough for Pavlov to kick in. Homophobes condition themselves by constantly thinking about sex (hot; unconditioned stimulus) and gay (conditioned stimulus) at the same time. If they just quit thinking about gay sex all day, their fetish would go away. But that would require being less homophobic, and they can't. Then they get worried that they're gay, because they like dick, so they assume being gay is what they have. And since what they have sucks, they assume being gay sucks, which makes them more homophobic.
A similar thing happens in POCD, or Pedophile Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. The fear of being a pedophile conditions an association between children and arousal, which self-reinforces in a vicious cycle. Fortunately, most people with POCD are not fascists, so they're capable of having a normal response to it in which they don't proceed to deliberately indulge in the association. In order for someone to be homophobic and suffer the same thing with gay thoughts, their judgement has to already be compromised, which produces a more toxic reaction.
https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/princesses-are-nsfw-f9e6c3d4532d
We shouldn't be teaching small children to admire princesses, it's disgusting.
Apologies. Lemmy doesn't seem to like posts that have both links and images.
Here are some other people discussing why monarchy in children's cartoons is weird and bad:
https://www.reddit.com/r/CharacterRant/comments/t9fjj8/shera_sucks_at_writing_war/
https://she-raandtheprincessesofpower.fandom.com/f/p/4400000000000042124
https://www.reddit.com/r/PrincessesOfPower/comments/1bjczob/i_think_spop_has_a_very_bad_ending/
The writing of She-Ra just doesn't make sense with regards to the whole "princess" thing, and it's bad. I'm not the first, tenth, or hundredth person to think about this. There's a lot of anarchists who have complained about the monarchy thing being apologism, and a lot of nerds who have complained about the writing of the political systems being illogical and confusing.
Like, they even have an anarchist character in the show. Swiftwind, the talking unicorn. He spends his free time freeing other horses from slavery at the hands of humanoids. He spouts communist propaganda every chance he gets. And yet he never ever criticises the monarchy. It's weird!
So, just to clarify, you think that being against the monarchy is suspicious? I thought this was a progressive community where anarchist opinions like "kill monarchs" were taken as normal. But if you want the mods to take action against users for being against the monarchy, I'm sure you can suggest a rule change. Because your conspiracy theory that every anti-monarchist is the same person sure seems like the kind of liberalism that this community was created to get away from.
Of course there's lots of australians who hate the monarchy. Australia is a very progressive country. My university has a socialist club, a marxist club, and a soulist club. My city has protests for Palestinian liberation that hundreds of people attend every two weeks. I don't mean to say that our government is very progressive (Although our right wing party are called Liberals and they have the same platform as US Democrats). I mean to say that progressive movements in Australia are very strong. Last election I voted for the socialist party, the legalise weed party, the piracy party, and the environmentalist party. We have multiple different major socialist orgs that show up at every major protest to hand out merch, and are often working together with the various groups running the various protests. Not to mention all of the smaller action groups like the drummers and of course the antirealists.
Americans might not be used to the level of progressivism you encounter in Australia, so it can be a bit of a culture shock. For example we had a few Proud Boys over from America a few years ago. HAD. They gave up because every time they showed up to counterprotest, thousands of australians would call them Nazis and tell them to fuck off. They needed a wall of police around them or they would have been beaten up, and they were sure scared shitless. On a more mundane note, if you go to ANY professional or academic or hobbyist meeting, they will tend to open with an acknowledgement of country, talking about systemic racism against aboriginals and the legacy of whatever land the meeting takes place on. Everyone does it, it's completely normal here.
So yes, you're going to see a lot of us australian anarchists about if Lemmy continues to be an international forum of discussion. This isn't Reddit, you're not going to be insulated from the rest of the world in your Americube. And no, I am not any of those other people. I'm not even My partner.
Well, I'd like to be able to say you should fight for victims. When I was alone and felt isolated by the abuse, that was the worst My trauma got. When I had friends who were willing to stand up to My bullies, I felt empowered. But, see, My abusers had friends standing up for them, who thought they were helping victims. So knowing who's the victim and who's the abuser is just as important as having that drive to help others. The message of the #metoo movement is only half the equation. People who want to do the right thing but won't think critically and learn the truth are worse than bystanders.
Thinking like a scientist is a good way to find the truth in any situation. I've helped other victims of harassment and rape. I always started out by thinking like a scientist. A good first test is: "Is the supposed victim actually making concrete claims?" I had an abuser who said I abused her, but it never told a single soul how. One of its partners stayed friends with Me and tried to figure out how, and never got a straight answer. Didn't think the abuser even had one itself. It believed I had abused it, but there wasn't a how. The dozens of people who believed it, they were operating on vibes and trust. They didn't even try to verify the claims, because they didn't hear the claims. There were no claims. So if you think like a scientist and try to verify the claims, you might find there's nothing to verify and your friend is a liar. That's a good way to do it.
Another issue is realism. My best friend was raped in the astral plane. Xe has schizophrenia, and experiences text roleplay as real. A lot of otherkin and plural systems I know experience roleplay as real, schizophrenia or no schizophrenia. But in this case xe had no options. Physically tried to extricate ximself from sexual contact, the rapist pinned xim down and kept going. Thinking everything is fine, this is just part of the roleplay. The rapist in that situation made a lot of choices after the fact that turned a misunderstanding into something unforgivable. Never apologised, used DARVO, etc. But a lot of bystanders, even in the otherkin community, didn't care because it wasn't "real". The contact didn't occur on the material plane. A lot of abuse is going to occur in ways that most people aren't used to dealing with. A lot of abuse is going to involve schizophrenia or otherkin or these other "weird" things. You need to adapt your thinking to the context and empathise with everyone involved, understand the motivations from every perspective. Sticking to your preconceptions of realism and denying the pain a rape victim feels isn't productive.
That's two things I saw that got in the way of the truth, and how to deal with them. But I'm still searching for answers on a lot of the subtler reasons why people side with abusers. I've been getting a lot better at the practicalities of fighting abusers. Recently I exposed a pedophile ring and have been dismantling the pedophile's cult, with a lot of success. But the lessons I learned that helped Me do that are more applicable to victims and journalists than to bystanders.
If I knew the answer to how to stop indirect harassment, I wouldn't have PTSD. I want to tell you I know how to fix all of this, but I don't. People are too impatient, too loyal, and too impressionable. They don't take the time to tell truth from lie, they just trust whoever their friends are or who spoke to them first. I only know what doesn't work, because I've lived it for years.
https://www.healthyhomes.org.au/news/heh1pp76ot3hpljgf9x3mp7umqndch
A new study published in The Lancet shows 6.5% of deaths in this country are attributed to cold weather, compared with 0.5% from hot weather. Most deaths will be from cardiovascular and respiratory disease, as it’s the heart and lungs that struggle when we are outside our comfort zone.
Cold weather causes twice as many deaths (proportional to population) as in Sweden. Australia's cold weather problem is, when measured in deaths, twice as bad as Sweden's. People DO die from extreme cold here in Australia, much worse than they do in Europe.
That screenshot is in reply to the very first comment of yours that I clicked on. Did you report those people for their transphobia?
I can't subscribe to a community I'm unbanned from
This is a simple software bug. You see, the way Lemmy federates is that updates to a community only federate to instances that have a user subscribed to that community. If you take a community like !libertyhub@lemmy.blahaj.zone, I'm the only person on all of Aussie Zone who subscribed to it. I know it because when I subscribed, we started getting updates from Blahaj.Zone about that community.
A few days ago, I was mistakenly banned from that community. And this caused Blahaj.Zone to stop sending our instance updates on the community. I spoke with the admin of the community and got unbanned, but the unban didn't federate. The instance will only let us know I'm unbanned if someone here subscribes over there. And I can't subscribe, because this server thinks I'm banned. It's a deadlock. If it wasn't for the ban, I could subscribe and the server would realise there isn't a ban anymore. But I can't, because this server thinks there is still a ban.
A moderator of a community on Blahaj misgendered Me and I can't report it.
Two hours ago I made a post to !libertyhub@lemmy.blahaj.zone about US politics. I had previously had a good relationship with the head moderator of this community. They've encouraged My political posts, and he's removed comments by people that misgendered Me, and reminded people of My pronouns, like in this thread two days ago:
https://imgur.com/RuNKgM1.png
https://imgur.com/GLT7HR0.png
However, an hour ago in this new thread, the same moderator who was telling people to respect My capitalised pronouns uses lowercase pronouns to address Me:
https://imgur.com/fmGtHvf.png
And he has left up earlier comments which also seemed to misgender Me, and which I specifically pointed out:
https://imgur.com/KZnosuC.png
Even as some users in the thread gender Me correctly:
https://imgur.com/EBuGfom.png
I'm making this thread in the main community because since the mod has banned Me, I can no longer report the comment or leave a reply correcting the pronoun. I would like to gain the attention of @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Misgendering trans people and banning Them at the same time so They can't do anything about it is not the kind of thing I expect to see on Blahaj. This mod is clearly 100% aware of My pronouns, and made a choice here. I suppose they could be using the general "you", but it just doesn't look like that, what with banning Me, telling Me My post isn't welcome, and telling Me to go to a different community. I used to have a good rapport with this mod, they said several times that they valued My posts. I posted something he disagrees with, and now all of a sudden respecting trans people's pronouns isn't a priority anymore. He's misgendering Me and they're leaving up comments that also misgender Me. It feels targeted.
EDIT: I cannot seem to embed images. Every time I hit edit and fix the image links and press save, they change to some kind of aussie.zone image proxy link. For now I have left them as links without embedding them.
