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www.psypost.org Relationships formed on dating apps are as strong as those formed in person, study finds

A study found no significant difference in relationship quality between couples who met online or in person, suggesting that dating apps are as effective as traditional methods for forming meaningful, satisfying romantic relationships.

Relationships formed on dating apps are as strong as those formed in person, study finds
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only 2 days

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www.theguardian.com Romania regulator calls for TikTok suspension amid vote interference fears

Far-right, pro-Moscow candidate Călin Georgescu came from 5% in polls to win presidential election’s first round

Romania regulator calls for TikTok suspension amid vote interference fears
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www.technologynetworks.com Are Chimps Building Cultures Like Humans? New Research Says Yes

Chimpanzees display an early form of cumulative culture, with successive generations refining tool-use practices for complex tasks like termite fishing. A study highlights how female migration facilitates the transmission of these behaviors.

Are Chimps Building Cultures Like Humans? New Research Says Yes
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www.digitaltrends.com Life found on Ryugu asteroid sample, but it’s not as exciting as it sounds

A recent discovery made by scientists working with a sample of rock from outer space highlights one of the huge challenges that such work involves.

Life found on Ryugu asteroid sample, but it’s not as exciting as it sounds
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yeast mode

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www.businessinsider.com Why some women say learning poker is the key to career success

Some women are playing poker to help build their risk-taking and negotiating skills, which in turns helps them in their careers.

Why some women say learning poker is the key to career success
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neurosciencenews.com Exercise Boosts Motivation to Combat Depression - Neuroscience News

A new study suggests that exercise reduces depression by boosting motivation through decreased inflammation and enhanced dopamine function.

Exercise Boosts Motivation to Combat Depression - Neuroscience News
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english.elpais.com Increasing testosterone levels does not increase sex drive

The results of a recent study suggest that, if there is no deficit of the hormone, supplements are unlikely to improve a man’s libido

Increasing testosterone levels does not increase sex drive
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www.independent.co.uk D.B. Cooper’s parachute may have just been found, breaking open 50-year-old cold case

YouTuber Dan Gryder said that he found a modified device matching the one used in the 1971 hijacking on a property in North Carolina

D.B. Cooper’s parachute may have just been found, breaking open 50-year-old cold case
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He would be invincible in 1788

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global.espreso.tv Top six narratives Russian propaganda, pro-Kremlin media promote in Europe

Russia's disinformation campaign employs dozens of narratives targeting the West and Ukraine to weaken public backing for Ukraine in the EU and in the US

Top six narratives Russian propaganda, pro-Kremlin media promote in Europe
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Romania: Several PSD mayors from Neamt claim that "on Sunday, at 5 p.m., the party told us to vote for Calin Georgescu, so that Lasconi doesn't get out!"

www-aktual24-ro.translate.goog Mai multi primari PSD din Neamt sustin ca „duminica, la 5 seara, ne-au zis de la partid sa dam voturi lui Calin Georgescu, ca sa nu iasa Lasconi!” - Aktual24

Numeroase surse politice au afirmat, inaintea alegerilor, ca ar fi existat o intelegere prin care membrii PSD trebuiau sa voteze cu George Simion, pentru a permite accederea acestuia in turul 2 al prezidentialelor, alaturi de Marcel Ciolacu. Se pare insa ca pactul secret ar fi fost modificat pe ulti...

Mai multi primari PSD din Neamt sustin ca „duminica, la 5 seara, ne-au zis de la partid sa dam voturi lui Calin Georgescu, ca sa nu iasa Lasconi!” - Aktual24
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Whats your secret?

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Science says setting a huge goal is important, right up until it’s not.

Built to Last author Jim Collins popularized the term “big, hairy, audacious goal,” a huge, daunting challenge that focuses, energizes, and motivates people to accomplish more than they thought possible.

Sounds great in theory, but not always in practice. In a group setting, setting an seemingly impossible goal can pay dividends, like the time Steve Jobs persuaded Corning’s Wendell Weeks to manufacture enough gorilla glass to produce millions of iPhones in less than six months.

But without a team you can rely on, that can support you, that will pick you up when you’re down – a situation most startup founders can relate to – a huge goal can actually be demotivating. The distance between here, where you’re starting, and there, where you want to end up?

Still, even if your goal is important, meaningful, or worthwhile, just thinking about how far you have left to go is stressful.

Which means at the very least you’re unlikely to perform at your best, which will further slow your progress – and make it much more likely that you’ll quit. Thinking back, every time I decided to give up on a huge goal came down to stress and despair: stress because the goal was too big, despair because I wasn’t making progress.

That feeling has psychological, and even neurological, underpinnings. Good Stress, Bad Stress

The Yerkes-Dodson law describes the relationship between arousal (not that kind of arousal) and performance. Your performance suffers if you’re too relaxed, or if the stakes are too low. On the flip side, your performance also suffers if you’re too fired up, or the stakes are too high.

In visual terms, like this from Wikipedia:

The peak of the bell shape is where you want to be: engaged enough to be focused and energized, but not so much that you’re like a squirrel physically (and mentally) freaking out because winter is coming.

Because when that happens, stress hormones also get involved. Feel too stressed – too “aroused” – and higher levels of adrenaline and especially cortisol negatively impact performance by causing muscle tension, impairing cognitive function, decreasing focus, hindering coordination, and disrupting sleep.

Add all that up, and yeah, you’re more likely to give up when, despite your “best” effort, you don’t feel like you’re getting closer to the peak of a mountain you can’t even see from where you are.

What can you do if you want to chase a huge goal? If you’re trying to achieve a huge goal – especially if you’re trying to achieve a huge goal – the key is to stay in a Yerkes-Dodson law peak as often as you can.

The best way to do that is to keep your world small. The Best Stress

As I’ve written about before, when Andy Stumpf became a Navy SEAL instructor he often asked candidates why they quit. For many, becoming a SEAL was a lifelong goal. So why would they give up?

“Time and time again,” Stumpf told Joe Rogan, “the answer I got from students was they got overwhelmed. They were doing the opposite of keeping their world small.”

Some trainees thought “big.” They saw SEAL training as a 180-day program, and by extension saw Hell Week as a five-day ordeal. Others thought small. When Stumpf went through SEAL training, he thought in terms of his next meal:

They have to feed you every six hours. So if I can stack six hours on six hours on six hours, and just focus on getting to the next meal, it doesn’t make matter how much I’m in pain, doesn’t matter how cold I am.

If I can just get to the next meal, get a mental reprieve and mental reset, then I can go on.

If you can apply that resilience to setting and approaching your goals from digestible perspectives, you can accomplish an insane amount.

That approach is the Yerkes-Dodson law in practice. Getting to the end of the week, or of the next six months? That’s too big, too hairy, too audacious and daunting. That’s “impaired performance because of strong anxiety.” In emotional intelligence terms, that’s letting your emotions work against you, not for you. Emotional Intelligence Tips

Getting to your next meal? That’s a goal you can embrace. That’s a goal you can accomplish. That’s a goal that keeps stress hormones better under control.

That’s a goal sufficient to get you going. But not so big that it gets you gone.

Instead of seeing a huge goal in its entirety, break it down into a series of tasks. Instead of seeing a project as a project, see it as a series of small steps.

Say you want to start a business. Consider the task list in its entirety, and the journey seems endlesss. The stress, and your emotions, will quickly get the best of you.

But you can do whatever is next. You can set up a basic accounting system. You can ask a few people for feedback on your concept or prototype. You can work on your pitch deck. You can work on your sales demo.

You can’t do everything, but you can do whatever is next – and when you see the process that way, you’re much more likely to find yourself riding the crest of the Yerkes-Dodson law.

Since you can’t accomplish everything at once, why think about everything at once? Instead, keep your world small. Break the task down into chunks that aren’t so small, or simple, or easy that you don’t have to try. But not so big that the effort seems too great.

Most pursuits, no matter how challenging, ultimately come down to time and effort. Put in the effort over a long enough period of time, and you can accomplish almost anything.

But that first means you have to do everything possible to ensure your emotions don’t get the best of you. Otherwise you’ll get frustrated, or stress, or feel demoralized, and you’ll want to give up. And you don’t want that.

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www.askmen.com Should You Ask Your Partner’s Body Count? Here’s What Experts Advise

Tempted to Ask About Your Partner’s Body Count? Read This First

Should You Ask Your Partner’s Body Count? Here’s What Experts Advise
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where am i now?

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mariah carey

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www.androidcentral.com New research confirms Samsung, Google, and Apple have been wrong all along

LEDs have long been thought to cause health problems. Now research proves it.

New research confirms Samsung, Google, and Apple have been wrong all along
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coincidence

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Let people just use what they want, okay? It's their choice.
  • If none of your family /friend are on facebook, you wont use it. If you cant find like minded people on Lemmy, you wont use it.

    Less people mean on average you have less chance to have your friend/family there, or like minded people or 'quality' people. Just on average.

    We can argue that some platform get all the good people, but I think that is mostly a false belief

  • Let people just use what they want, okay? It's their choice.
  • Any social platform, from fb, to reddit and youtube worth only as much as the number of people using it. Less people = less creative mind = less potential friend = less incentive to come use the same platform = less public for creative mind. So social media can only work as a monopoly or quasi. Or it is of no one interest to come on it, if all your friend/favorite creator, are on the other platform.

    Ergo, you have to do some proselytism so everyone join the platform you're using. That being said: did you create your account on bluesky?

  • I just tried copilot.. Why it is so condescending
  • So you think MS database is worse than chatGPT, or google? Are they the one who bought access to reddit to feed their AI? I still think there are some added intention from MS.. I dont recall other vanilla LLM saying "that's interesting" or other value judgement. I think they tried to program Copilot's answer to be more human-like, for some reason

  • I just tried copilot.. Why it is so condescending
  • It seems I cannot copy more than 1 exchange at the time!! Another shitty feature from MS. Here is one:

    me: it is not roman.. could be indian, or from a remote island

    Copilot : That's interesting! The story you shared doesn't seem to match any well-known Roman myths, but it could indeed be from Indian mythology or a lesser-known culture. In Indian mythology, there are many tales of divine and miraculous births, though none specifically match your story. For example, the god Ganesha was created from clay by his mother, ParvatiIt's also possible that this story comes from a remote or indigenous culture with rich oral traditions. These stories often contain unique elements and themes that aren't found in more widely known mythologies. Does any part of this story resonate with a particular culture or tradition you're familiar with?

    "That's interesting!"??? what? I dont care if it is or not. Stop pretending you have interest. Then, you pretend to know something ("It could indeed be from Indian mythology"), without saying anything new.

    And the question at the end of every answer in that exchange, grate on you very fast :"Does any part of this story resonate with a particular culture or tradition you're familiar with?".. You're supposed to provide answers, not question. Plus what the point of that question? Just ask what detail I can add to help Copilot to find an answer, not this condescending "are you familiar with"

    Those are little things, but after 5 exchanges with the same ton it was insufferable.

    Any normal llm would say just the fact:

    In Indian mythology, there are many tales of divine and miraculous births, though none specifically match your story. For example, the god Ganesha was created from clay by his mother, ParvatiIt's also possible that this story comes from a remote or indigenous culture with rich oral traditions. These stories often contain unique elements and themes that aren't found in more widely known mythologies. I need more detail to give a more precise answer.