It's degrees. Some may really enjoy parts of their masculinity and other may be really uncomfortable with parts of their masculinity. Some may have so much apathy toward their masculinity that they prefer to avoid the label of man because, though that may most adequately describe them from the outside, they have no desire to apply that label to themselves. The concept and performance of gender is a hodgepodge of various qualities that are complicated, often contradictory, and dependent on tons of external factors.
Those labels are there to assist people while they engage with the nuances of one of the most intrinsic and complex qualities of our subjective experiences in life. It's messy, but it's also beautiful that more people are inspecting their lives on such a fundamental level and practicing self determination.
Man is a perfectly fine label for many, but others may not have the same opinion about the term despite sharing similar feelings to OP and many of the people in this thread; and there's something uniquely human about that which is worth exploring
Nail on the head. Its a bullshit solution for bullshit work at our bullshit jobs
Plant estrogens, especially in the instance of soy, have been overwhelmingly shown to have no effects on our endocrine system. If growing breasts were as easy as eating tofu, a lot of transfem people would've been doing that over prescription meds
Got curious and looked it up, you're right!
All I need is one prescription bottle with my name on it and then it's all onions from there
You're not wrong haha. Can't wait to be able to afford proper medicine
Nicotine. I started smoking at 16. Vaping now but nicotine and caffeine are carrying me through my unmedicated life
My suspicion is that your stopper isn't sealing well, possibly from wear or just odd positioning. If you feel like ruining what's left of that Jim beam in the decanter you can run a little experiment. Clear the condensation out of the decanter and mark the current level. Leave it for a week and see if the level dropped to establish a baseline. After marking the change, coat the stopper in Vaseline and leave it for another week. See if that helped or not. If it helped then you've got a leak
You put the goat in the boat, huck the cabbage at the bear/wolf/worm, grab a slice of man cake, and cross the river
"word your comments better"
-- the guy using slurs
Wish I could be of more help. I've had two different types of generic instant release and they both tasted lightly sweet and went down with 0 issues . Maybe I got lucky haha. Idk if name brand or generic makes much of a difference price-wise for you but you could always try parachuting your pills (without crushing them obv) to put a barrier between your tongue and the pill
Here's the text:
Authorities have released the identity of a woman and her infant who were killed last week during an incident that led up to a shooting involving Independence, Missouri police.
Blue Springs Police Department Capt. Kyle Flowers confirmed Maria Pike, 34, and Destinii Hope, 2 months, were both killed in the incident at Oval Spring Apartments.
Flowers is heading up the eastern Jackson County Police Incident Investigation Team (PIIT), which is investigating the incident that involved multiple Independence police officers.
Flowers also provided an update on the investigation Tuesday, saying the PIIT has now reviewed the footage from body-worn cameras that captured the incident, and investigators will be interviewing people involved in the incident again Tuesday.
The goal, currently, is to turn over information on the investigation to the Jackson County Prosecutor's Office next week. However, there is no specific deadline for the case.
Independence Police Chief Adam Dustman said Friday the officer who opened fire followed training because Pike had a knife.
Several people have said they saw an Independence police officer running with the injured Destinii in his arms to his police cruiser to take her to the hospital because he didn’t want to wait for an ambulance.
Assistant Property Manager Gavin Delaney helped the two police officers get inside the apartment.
After he was told to leave the apartment, Delaney heard gunshots and then saw the officer with the baby.
He’s already spoken to a counselor.
"It's obviously very tragic and traumatic and everybody has their different ways of processing. But, you know, my intention is not to make it seem like I'm the only person that was involved in this. I want to be able to push the resources to the family or to the people who really need them," Delaney said.
To that end, Property Manager Carrie Lufkin reached out to nearby Comprehensive Mental Health Services to provide free counseling at the Oval Spring clubhouse Monday and Tuesday.
"It was a horrific, tragic event that ended awful. And I want to do everything that I can do to help our community move forward," Lufkin said.
"Our staff are available to check in with everyone, see how they're doing, help, talk them through whatever they experienced, whatever they're feeling now," said Julie Pratt, Kansas City Region president, Comprehensive Mental Health Services. "I know we try to talk to people about trying to keep a normal routine.
Keep your daily day-to-day routine as you normally would. Pay attention to your sleeping patterns, your eating patterns. But just trying to be available for the community here in this apartment complex," she said.
Destinii’s grandparents, Brian and Talisa Coombs, said Jackson County Prosecutor Jean Peters Baker called them and told them she’d pay for their counseling if they want it.
They also said Baker told them her office is conducting its own investigation.
Destinii's aunt, Felisha Holder, has put together a GoFundMe page with a goal of $7,000 for the infant’s funeral.
There are also plans for a candlelight vigil outside the apartment building where the incident took place, scheduled for Friday at 7 p.m.
A purple and white balloon release will be held as part of the vigil.
I was born in the 90s, my brothers were born in the early 2000s. We had a CRT into the early 2010s . Maybe people who weren't poor haven't seen real TV static but even then I doubt it. Hell, remember those god awful "flat screen" CRTs? My old station still had one of those that we used to watch TV on in 2018-19. It's probably still there lol
The darkest Brandon would be [redacted]
Came across an unironic use of "momgoloid" in a paper from 1992 once
Slrpnk, the instance full of hippies and anarchists, is authoritarian? Lol how do they come up with this shit
Don't be fooled, they put a sugar coating around the OTC stuff. Instant release Adderall on the other hand... that shit tastes pretty good
What am I supposed to do?
All year I've been making various attempts to found an organization. All of the books and zines tell me to get myself and some friends together and do an abarchy. I have 3 friends and they're all some flavor of liberal. Our politics are incompatible and they have no interest in anything left of Bernie Sanders. Perhaps my rhetoric isn't the best.
I've tried to get my coworkers interested in a union. Despite having terrible working conditions and recognizing the need for a collective voice, nobody wants to take the plunge with me. Nobody wants to make plans. Nobody cares enough to put the work in. I did the "educate, agitate, organize", I printed the pamphlets, I talked the talk, I set dates. Nobody showed up.
I table by myself at a local arts market on Saturdays. I hand out cold water and zines, I have great conversations with people from all walks of life. I haven't met a single anarchist and I haven't had anybody show up to the reading group I've been trying to start.
All year I've been trying to join an organization. There's a food not bombs run by social democrats in my city. They only want donations. There's a community garden that isn't looking for volunteers. There's a DSA chapter that only does campaign events. That's it. Those are the only secular, public organizations in my city that aren't corporate nonprofits that I've been able to find after months of searching. Barring a Marxist vanguard group that dissolved earlier this year, and a women's health ride share that fell apart two weeks into starting.
What am I supposed to do? I want to put the work in, I want to help build a better world. My state, my county, my city, and my neighbors seem determined to walk blindly into this catastrophe and it boggles my mind. Is there anybody out there who's been in my situation and managed to make something of it?
What's your "elevator pitch" for anarchism?
I was handing out zines and water at my city's pride parade today. I had a lot of fun and had some good conversations but I was struggling to describe anarchism in a way that invited further conversation. I've never done tabling before and I also have terrible social anxiety so my mind wasn't on its best behavior. Most of the conversations I had died off pretty quickly as a result.
I figured having a "script" of sorts might help me get through the start of these conversations more easily. The description I was going with alternated between "order without authority" and "opposition to domination and hierarchy". I'm sure there's a better way to put it so that people are more curious or at least walk away with a better understanding, if appreciate getting some help to find the words haha
Zines/pamphlets/essays
Hey all, my city is doing a pride parade soon and I'm planning on handing out some material in the hope of starting a reading group. I'm looking for any recommendations y'all might have. I want to cover as much of the spectrum as I can with ~5-6 different pieces. I'm thinking one or two for a general "what is anarchism?", something on queer theory, black anarchism, ableism, and a 5th thing that I haven't determined yet. Any and all recommendations are welcome, whether or not they fit within the categories I outlined. Thanks!
Some of the pieces I'm considering at the moment:
Queer Social Anarchism - Elisha Moon Williams
Queers With Guns - Elisha Moon Williams
Is my punctuation correct?
I couldn't find a "grammar help" community so I thought this might be a good place to pose this question. Sorry for asking something that boils down to "please help me with my homework" but I'm at a loss. I'm supposed to be using MLA format.
Here's the text I'm quoting:
"While recognizing the critical potential of the dystopic imagination, this volume examines it as a form of urban representation; the modern city, after all, appears to be an instantiation of a dystopic form of society."
Here's my sentence:
Prakash notes the utility of dystopian media, stating "this volume examines it as a form of urban representation; the modern city, after all, appears to be an instantiation of a dystopic form of society." (3)
Is this right? Should I have the period at the end of the parentheses? I tried looking through my textbook and a few online articles but I couldn't find an example with a parenthetical citation and a quote that includes a period. Thanks for the help!
I struggle with depression and alexithymia. How do I write with emotion?
I have to write a paper about a place/time that I have an emotional attachment to or a place that has shaped my sense of self. I haven't really felt much of an attachment to anything for most of my life. Even if I did, I wouldn't even know how to begin describing the nature or cause of that attachment. I chose to write about the woods by my childhood home because I spent a lot of time there as a kid but I couldn't tell you how I felt about it in the moment or even how I feel about it now. I literally don't have the words
Pro-union and anarchist propaganda
Hey y'all, for mayday I'm wanting to spread some leaflets, zines, etc around the hospitals in my area. Does anyone have any recommendations for pieces geared towards the medical field?
Video: Anark | The principles of anarchism and how they lead to human liberation
Pretty interesting video that does a good job summarizing and explaining the rationale behind anarchism. Thought it'd be a good piece for those interested in learning more. Couldn't find any community guidelines for this page so if videos aren't allowed, please let me know!
Am I overthinking? Mint Cinnamon/Edge/MATE/xfce/ for a T480?
The propaganda worked. I bought a Thinkpad, the thigh highs are on the way, penguin stickers are already here. Now it's time to actually put Linux on my machine.
I'm a bit lost on which version of mint to put on the T480. It's an i7 8650u, 16gb RAM, 256gb SSD (will eventually be upgrading the RAM, SSD, and display). My question is, is the t480 "old" by Linux standards? From what I've gathered cinnamon is the standard version. Edge is for new (?) hardware that may not be fully compatible with cinnamon. MATE is for old/lower power hardware that can't handle the demand of cinnamon and xfce is for even older/slower hardware.
I've been running in circles all morning trying to find experiences of people with a T480 who are running mint and which version they're using. Old is apparently 3+ years according to various articles trying to convince me to upgrade and I haven't found much on what is considered old hardware for Linux. As someone who hasn't bought a computer in nearly a decade, a quad core processor with 16 gigs of ram is ridiculously powerful. My last computer was a $90 shitbox that I got on clearance from Walmart in 2016 to do online lessons in EMT school. So my perspective/experience is utterly useless.
Can a T480 run Mint Cinnamon 21.3, or am I better off using MATE/xfce? It's going to live a pretty easy life. I'll mostly be using it to browse, stream music, do (online) homework, write papers, and put books on my e-reader.
Fiction!
I've finally fallen in love with reading again over the last year. Problem is I've only been reading non-fiction. it makes my brain hurt. I'd like to have some stuff I can turn to when attempting to read gender trouble gives me another headache. I don't have any particular preference for genre. I used to read fantasy, historical fiction, dystopian stuff but I'm more than happy to explore other genres as well!
A short list of things I've read for reference:
- The saxon stories, Bernard Cornwell
- LOTR, the hobbit
- 1984
- The road, Cormac McCarthy
- The plague dogs, Richard Adams
Hoisin sauce is asian sweet baby rays
Had this epiphany last night when we went to an asian fusion place. The similarities are uncanny
Reading suggestions for deeper theory and praxis
Hey all, I started my dive into anarchism a little over a year ago and I've read a lot of the anarchy/socialism 101 type books but I'm starting to find a lot of it repetitive. I'm looking for suggestions to deepen my understanding of anarchism and libertarian socialism. Especially praxis and tactics, a lot of theory that I've come across doesn't really get into the weeds about applying it, and as someone in an area with no leftist orgs to speak of (outside of a small DSA chapter), I don't have anyone local to go to in order to learn from.
I want to start putting all of this knowledge to use in my area but I'm not 100% sure where to start or how to avoid some of the pitfalls of organizing. Any suggestions would be much appreciated!
What's Lemmy drinking this weekend?
I've got a bottle of dolin rouge that's been open for about a week so I'll be playing around with that. I think I'll start the night off with a vieux carre