Damn bro/sis, that hurts. Take care of yourself through those dark times. Wishing you the best..
I don't understand a thing but I love your drawings! It's a little joy every time there's one in my feed.
French "au jour d'aujourd'hui" would like to know your position.
Translated literally, it would be, like... "At the day of at the day of today"
Au jour : at the day
Aujour : at the day
d'hui : of today
All these threads make me want to take the leap to Linux. My work laptop runs on Mint, but as for my home pc.. guess I'll still have to wait for more Proton development/compatibility. Last time I checked, part of the games I want to play soon (Remnant 2, Supervive, Legion TD 2, Morimens, Sengoku Dynasty, Ravenswatch and a few others) seem to require a little more experimentation than I'd like.
Don't get me wrong, as a modder of obscure Chinese games and at work, I'm all for experimenting. But for the 1h per day I can play, I'll wait until I'm quite sure I won't spend it tinkering around to get my current games to work.
But I sure hope it will be sooner than later!
Honestly, if you stick to ARAM and a few casual SR, it's way better than a few years ago. Less toxicity, even fairly friendly games.
Ranked ? Nevermore.
For me it was a strange and unintended cocktail of the lowest point of a depression (crisis state and constant dissociation), quitting an addiction and reading a book and declaring it was my new existential guideline. It was a philosophy book. Spinoza's ethics.
Recipies may vary to suit different tastes.
And one day, brain did shut up for good and started to follow reason's evaluations of these kind of situations. And I hope it will happen to those needing this.
Ah, I knew they'd find Lemmy sooner or later. I guess it can't be helped.
I like this conversation very much too. And I like the way you describe your will to volunteer and your conception of the steps ahead.
As for religions, I'm not certain. I can really like and admire people who live and love deeply something in the religious faith. Alone or with others. But communities.. I'm not saying social control is bad in itself but this type of social control is rather frightening to me.
And changing... What a topic! Did you ever try to measure the time it takes you to change on a specific aspect? It's a very strange yet reassuring experience. I used to do this a lot, a bit less nowadays, but for example, I'd write :
"learn to handle praise to be as kind as possible with others, understanding it as" somehow I kinda like something in you" and accept the kindness but be unsettled by the praise itself, or, better, make yourself truly incapable of understanding it as a praise"
in a notebook, because it was a very often present in my thoughts and then, after writing, forget about it. Let things unfold organically without giving it much thoughts. An indeterminate time later, I'd be praised for school performance, for example, and.. somehow, in a way I couldn't fully understand, I both felt I understood the praise and I didn't really know what to make of it, all the sudden.
Then, a few weeks later, after processing the event, grab my notebook and write : "8 months".
It's quite interesting, and gives a little sense of : "Hmmm.. this may take quite a time, but let's see when/how/by which ways I'll try to get there.. or at least somewhere close!"
Thank you for your message!
I'll try to answer as best as I can. My close friends and family sometimes mock me gently for my attitude, but overall, I think they're happy with it. Even if they're trying to help me learn about how to take breaks. I'm listening, but the translation process is quite long.
Being vulnerable with them is hard. But I'm trying my best. I think I've been doing it increasingly the last year but that's never easy. It happens, now, though!
I really don't think I hold them to these standards. And that's 'it because they wouldn't be worthy of these standard, making me a superior being. It's just that.. they have their own sets of standards. Mine are about, err.. morals. Theirs can be about creativity, balance or anything else and it would be equally beautiful. Well, if they were terrible human beings, I don't think we would be friends at all.
As for your last question, yes, I do.. I think. I hold them to what I liked in them. Even if I admit people may change, even radically. I.. yeah, there's something in them that I loved. And that thing may very well change in it's expression, but if at some point I feel it's totally gone, I may have a hard time remaining friends with them. But I suppose most people react like that?
Regarding your thoughts, well.. That's a tough one.
But a really interesting one as well.
I'm not really sure.. I suppose that may be my way to avoid being scared of death while I live ? Imagining the scene and just being like "Well, it's okay if it ends now, I explored the way I've chosen in life as much as I could". There may be something like that. I imagine it's more.. serene?
I'm not sure - but maybe I don't see - what parts of life I would miss right now. Because I don't think I'm.. hmm.. forbidding myself any specific path I would like to tread with these standards. Drugs? Certain types of illegal acts? Starting over in another country? Why not. Things I don't want to do, though, like trying to dominate people, I could say I'm preventing myself from that, but really, that's.. contradicting all I want so strongly I'm not even sure who "I" is in this case.
Il not 100% sure about my answer, but your question about death was a very interesting one. And I really appreciate the way you framed it. Thank you!
First, kind stranger, thank you very much for you answer. It's quite funny that I used to be quite patronizing too until I went through a major depression and became a slightly different person.
And yes I think I see what you mean. My therapist recently told me something quite close, but I'm not sure I'll find the words to translate it to English. But yes, clearly, I'm trapped in a "overdoing-collapse" cycle I still need to learn to manage in a better way. Although.. maybe I'm making progress in this regard, I tend to collapse less and less heavily, and I sometimes take breaks.
The thought you brought up us very interesting, and my own answer us quite simple. To contextualize, I've been active in a few community organizations in the past, then it all stopped when I moved to another city. Now, I just happen to like people I sometimes meet and try to behave as I described. But it's quite close to a normal life too. Closer than before at least.
And so, I met a thought similar to yours a few days ago, an answer came from my heart : "I don't know. But what I know is that wishing I was something/someone else that the thing/person I am, trying to force myself to do something I currently can't do is preparing myself for a life of guilt and misery, and likely make my loved ones pay for this guilt and misery. And that can't be good".
How does this sound to you? I'm not sure about it, but I've sticked with this answer ever since.
Interesting questions, thanks! I'm not sure I feel much when I'm doing well in that project. Not joy or pride for sure. Rather "we'll, that could have been worse!".
Bit what I'm almost sure about us the answer to your second question. My goal is unreachable, but pursuing it does bring the most important value : living the way I want to leave. It's all about preparing for the end. When I'll die, I just want to be able to say : everything I could do given the circumstances, my own strengths and weaknesses, what I was able to do at a given time, I tried to do it. So I regret nothing. In a way, I'll die, sure and I don't believe in any kind of afterlife, but somehow I'll have lived to the fullest.
Ah, yes you're right. And I think I feel the same. I can strive for perfection and know the best I can do is the best solution within my reach. Then, well, that's the way to go.
My own philosophy/creed is based on Spinoza. I've seen a few parallels drawn between him and stoicism. I'll definitely read about those. Thank you very much!
Is it weird to try to behave perfectly?
Alright, so, something I've been talking about with my therapist a lot, but I thoughts folks out here could have interesting povs.
To sum it up, I'm constantly trying to act like a saint (figuratively, I'm an atheist). There's one exception to this, people holding power and making others miserable in any way.
But basically, you know, this whole mentality of banishing anger, jealousy, egoism, selfishness, greed, desire for power and authority and all that? That's me.
I don't mean I manage to do so constantly, but that's what I strive for.
One could think, and I did think, it was a desire for social praise. But really, when I get praised, which happen a lot, I don't care and that's more awkward that anything (like : woa dude, it's not the Oscars or something, chill out). And little by little, I started to think it didn't have much to do with being praised, that's just striving to live as I think it's better to live. To live a life I'll me content with when the grim reaper will come and all praises won't mean anything anymore.
My therapist thinks it's not really an issue as long as it doesn't cause myself pain (which it does because I'm deaf to my own needs 50% of the times).
But I don't see a satisfying way to live apart from that.
One potential misinterpretation I'd like to prevent. It's a very strong drive, but it doesn't make me blind. It really doesn't happen a lot but whenever I'm angry, I'm not feeling guilty. I know why I feel this, it's just that I didn't have any other way to manage a situation/feeling. I'll just strive to do better next time by trying to modify the situation so that anger will not be the most probable answer.
Do you find it weird? Anyone adopting this kind of behavior? Maybe everyone does. It may sound a bit megalomaniac, like hey I'm exceptional, but it really isn't what I mean. To my own eyes, I'm not a bad or a good person. I'm just trying to be what I want. If somebody tries to be someone different, it's all fine by me.
TL;DR : Is having high moral standards for one's self weird or toxic? Does my message actually sound megalomaniac?
"Que d'eau, que d'eau !"
Source : am French and have been laughing about this since I was 8yo. Recently read about the prefect response and it's now even better.
On prison abolition
You're a prison abolitionist. You're in a high stakes discussion where you have to answer seriously and be convincing.
Someone asks you : "yeah, but what are we to do with people breaking the law, then? What will you replace prisons with ?"
What will you answer?
Edit : Thanks a lot for your answer, they were very interesting and reflecting different ways to frame a world without prisons.
Except from one or two edgelord hot takes, of course.
A story beside
Today, I'd like to recommend everyone who likes a deep and tragic story to take a look at A Story Beside.
As a disclaimer, I am not affiliated at all with the studio or promo. None of that. I don't even have a yt channel to promote.
I just happened to play this game 2 years ago and it still haunts me with both joy and sadness.
To make it clear how much I loved it : I played it on the high seas, finished it, knew I was never going to play it again (for me, that's the kind of story based/narrative game you only play once), and still bought it on Steam the day after and bought it for a few friends.
While the gameplay is simple and the gfx are nothing to write home about (rpg maker, my first game of the kind), the story is superb and highly emotional. It has a simple point and click interface (definitely NOT my type of games), choices with heavy consequences and mostly non genderlocked romance, IIRC.
But what cracked my heart the most us the VA. It's beautiful behind words, haunting and powerful. It made me understand how VA is important in a game. Some sentences from this game are still with me to this day and randomly pop in my thoughts.
So do yourself a favor and play this one of these days.. Just make sure you have someone you trust close enough, because it can be really heartbreaking sometimes. Or beautiful. Or happy. Depends on your perspective.
Edit : typo in the title of the post >.<
P. S. : If I had one criticism about this game, it would be that some choices are quite obscure. A little thing you said, did or forgot to do at one point can have cataclysmic consequences later on, and it can be frustrating because back then, you didn't even know you were making a choice. I started blind, got a heartbreaking story event, restarted from the beginning with a guide to avoid the.. err.. bad endings.
What are your thoughts on inner martial arts?
Hello everyone I am an avid practitioners of martial arts. Started with Judo and Jiu Jitsu. Then my health and phisical condition degraded due to external causes. I switched to Aikido for three years and now Tai chi chuan, which I am now strongly committing to.
Aside from obvious positive effects (balance and agility) I wonder what you all think about inner martial arts.
I tend to ingest as little taoist folklore as I can, not because I think it's not interesting, but I want to avoid the exotic sounding mysticism tailored to impress westerners as a kind of new age marketing strategy. Fortunately, my teacher is a medical doctor working in the field of work related injuries.
I know I love Tai Chi Chuan and I truly mean to get better at it, but I can't ignore all the... weird stuff connected to it (no, Mr. Grand Master, I refuse to think that you single handedly pushed 10 people by the power of chi mastery). At the same time, I've been impressed by how, sometimes, finding adequate balance can make you able to sustain a strong push without even making active use of muscular strength.
So Il just wondering how you feel about this (or the other) inner martial art.
For me, it's a demanding and rewarding practice, full of great health and self discipline benefits and a few truly impressive perks, but with a..weird decorum I can't begin to understand.
NSA and Ghidra
Do people trust Ghidra? How come it's been developed by the NSA? From an outsider perspective, that sounds so weird!
Thanks in advance to anyone able to enlighten me!
Erb election battle
Omg, I suppose ERB was producing their Biden VS Trump rematch video when the democratic nominee changed. That means we may not get an electoral battle this cycle. My day is ruined.
TW : The most vicious crime
Why do it seems that pedophilia is, nowadays, percieved as the most vicious crime, along with terrorism? Why not, for example, sexual assault?
I mean it as an actual question, but first I should clarify my intent :
-I'm not advocating for normalizing pedophilia
-I have been a victim of it myself. Luckily, I've mostly recovered from it and live a happy life.
-Because of my political commitments, which are totally unrelated to this question, I've met some old people from the 70s who advocated for the depenalization of consensual sex between minors and adults (if such a thing exist, which can legitimately be doubted).
-I'm friend with one of them but I could never understand how that idea came to their minds. She knows I oppose the very idea. But it got me curious.
What I want to ask is, what, in contemporary history, contributed to make pedophilia the #1 vicious crime, surpassing rape in most consciences (if I'm not mistaken), in your opinion?
Feel free to delete this if that's not acceptable. Also, I didn't include the word "pedophilia" in the title to avoid triggering people who may have such experiences.
So you prefer playing as another gender?
Survey data on player gender and character gender preference.
Well, as a guy, I've been asked multiple times why I systematically play games female characters in video games, to the point of skipping a game if I'm forced to pay a male one, with a few exceptions (I really liked Albus from Troubleshooters for example). Whenever there's romance in a game, I'll also take the F/F route. Yet, I don't think I fetishize those in general. There's a thing about not liking most M characters in games, but also something about playing someone really different from who I am. We've had an interesting conversation about this with my gf who always plays F characters and woyd never play M.
Although I'm a straight guy, I've always more identified to female friends and characters, although I have a few male friends too. So I'm wondering who else does that (playing a character not matching your gender), and if you found your own explanation.
Edit : It's not really an oversexualization drive for me, I try to play a female character that looks like me, even though I've never thought about actually becoming a woman.
Edit 2 : So far, I think we have, hmm..
- Playing someone that differs from one's irl identity
- Physical Attractivity
- Male character writing and design
- Lara Croft effect
- Lady Dwarf
Feature Request : Mark as read on scroll, Hide read posts
As per title. This is such a great feature, included by Eternity, Sync, Connect and a few others. A very nice QoL which a few users desperately want in their app. I'm one of them! Good luck with the development of Boost!
What is your favorite quote from Ethics, if you've read the book ?
Mine is quite certainly "I have striven not to laugh at human actions, not to weep at them, nor to hate them, but to understand them".
About Spinoza and his practical philosophy
A community for those interested in ethics and particularly about the work on Spinoza. Anyone is welcome, you don't need a degree. Gatekeeping is not allowed.
If you are curious or want to share you examples, memes, discussions about how Spinoza's Ethics are relevant to you, of if you're curious and just want to learn a thing or two about it, come and discuss!